Jane Finlay, BACP

Jane Finlay welcomes people who are feeling stuck, overwhelmed or unsure how to move forward. She is a counsellor who aims to make talking about hard things as straightforward as possible. Jane uses a calm, compassionate style to help people untangle stress, anxiety, low self-esteem and relationship difficulties.

Jane trained as a psychotherapeutic counsellor and is registered with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP). She has ten years of practical experience working with issues such as depression, grief, anger and coping with life changes. Her work also covers addiction concerns, compassion fatigue and intimacy-related difficulties.

Her practice pays particular attention to patterns that show up again and again in relationships. She is interested in how people hide parts of themselves and what that does to closeness and trust. Jane helps people notice those patterns and consider different ways of relating that feel safer and more honest.

Sessions focus on building a better understanding of feelings and motivations. Jane uses psychodynamic ideas to look at how past experiences shape present behaviour, and she helps clients find small, practical shifts to try between sessions. The aim is to increase self-awareness, confidence and choice.

People often come to discuss attachment worries, abandonment, communication problems or a sense of emptiness. Jane also supports work on commitment concerns, control issues, dissociation, guilt and shame. She encourages self-compassion and clearer personal direction.

Asking for help can feel daunting, and Jane acknowledges that courage. She meets people with warmth and respect and works collaboratively to identify steps that might help them feel steadier and more able to make the changes they want.

Psychodynamic counselling online and how it helps

Psychodynamic therapy looks at how past relationships and early patterns shape current feelings and reactions. It helps people spot repeated ways of relating, understand why they happen and choose different responses when they cause distress.

In sessions the counsellor will invite reflection on emotions, recurring struggles and the stories people tell about themselves. This approach can be useful for issues such as attachment worries, abandonment, shame, emptiness and difficulties in intimate relationships because it focuses on long-standing patterns rather than only quick fixes.

Finding the right approach is part of the work. The counsellor will talk with the client about their needs, goals and preferences and together decide how to apply psychodynamic ideas in a way that feels helpful and relevant. This is a collaborative process that can change as the work unfolds.

Online formats include video calls, phone sessions, live chat and text-based messaging. Video calls recreate face-to-face conversation, phone sessions can suit people with limited bandwidth or who prefer not to be on camera, live chat is good for shorter check-ins and text messaging allows ongoing, flexible contact. These options make it easier to fit therapy around work, caring responsibilities and day-to-day life.