Nicola Lomas, BACP

Nicola Lomas offers support for people facing stress, anxiety, trauma and abuse, grief, depression and issues related to sexuality and LGBT matters. She is mindful of feelings such as guilt, shame, isolation and abandonment, and helps people who struggle with attachment and communication problems.

Nicola listens without judgement and lets clients set the pace. She uses an integrative counselling style, choosing methods that suit each person rather than using one fixed approach. Sessions focus on understanding what has happened, how it affects daily life, and what steps feel manageable to take next.

Nicola trained to BSc Honours level and is a member of the BACP. Her five years of practice have included work with people impacted by sexual abuse and rape, where she concentrates on safety, rebuilding self-trust, and gradual healing. She aims to offer clear explanations of options so people can make informed choices about their care.

In practical terms Nicola adapts sessions to individual needs. Conversations may look at coping strategies, emotional processing, and improving communication with others. She pays attention to how past relationships shape current feelings and reactions.

People can expect a calm, steady approach and a willingness to revisit and adjust plans as therapy progresses. Nicola supports clients in finding practical ways to feel more connected to themselves and to others over time.

Approaches that fit your needs, delivered online

Nicola works from an integrative viewpoint, which means she draws on a small number of evidence-based techniques and adapts them to the person's needs. One common element is trauma-informed care - this involves careful pacing, grounding exercises and attention to safety while processing difficult memories, and it can help with post-traumatic stress and the lasting effects of abuse. Another frequently used approach focuses on attachment and relationships, looking at how early bonds shape current feelings and communication, which can help with loneliness, abandonment worries and building self-trust.

Choosing the right approach is a shared process. Nicola will talk with the client about their goals, preferences and what has or hasn’t helped before. Together they agree on a plan and review it as therapy progresses so the work stays relevant and manageable.

Online therapy offers practical flexibility. Video calls allow face-to-face conversation when more connection is helpful, phone sessions need less bandwidth and can be easier during busy days, while live chat or text messaging suit brief check-ins and people who prefer writing. These options make it easier to fit therapy into daily life and keep progress moving even when schedules change.