Hilary Rock-Gormley, NCPS

Hilary Rock-Gormley uses relational and trauma-aware approaches to help people feel steadier and more understood. She draws on 26 years of experience to guide people through anxiety, grief, depression and difficult life changes. Hilary believes people already hold strengths and values that can be brought into therapy to make change possible. She writes simply and compassionately, and aims to make the first steps feel manageable.

Her work focuses on stress, trauma and abuse, bereavement, and mood difficulties. She also supports people facing addictions, career pressures, and issues around intimacy and relationships. Practical concerns such as parenting, eating issues, anger and self-esteem are part of her caseload, as are longer-term challenges like chronic illness and ageing-related worries.

Hilary draws on attachment-based and client-centred ideas to build a trusting working relationship. Psychodynamic and trauma-focused methods help understand patterns from the past that still affect day-to-day life. She also uses solution-focused techniques to set small, achievable goals between sessions.

She holds NCPS as a credential and is based in the United Kingdom. Sessions are offered in English and Hilary works with people from other countries as well. Her style is collaborative and respectful; she invites people to bring their concerns and to shape the work together.

Practical help in sessions can include clearer ways to cope when anxiety spikes, steps to navigate grief, and strategies to reduce intense stress. Over time the aim is to boost confidence, reduce distressing symptoms, and support healthier patterns in relationships and daily life.

Relational and trauma-aware approaches online

Hilary commonly uses attachment-based methods that focus on how relationships shape feelings and behaviour; this helps when patterns from close relationships make life harder. She also works in a client-centred way, offering an accepting, non-judgemental stance so people can talk through their experience at their own pace. Trauma-focused techniques are used when past hurts continue to affect daily life, with careful pacing to help reduce distress.

Finding the right approach is part of the work. The therapist will listen to a person's history, current worries and what they hope to change, and together they will decide which methods to try. This collaboration means the plan can be adjusted as needs and goals evolve.

Online sessions are offered by video call, phone, live chat or text-based messaging to fit different routines. Video calls are good for face-to-face conversation and seeing non-verbal cues. Phone sessions use less bandwidth and can be easier to fit into a work break. Live chat or messaging can suit brief check-ins, written reflection, or people who prefer not to use video.