Vijay (Jay) Sandher, BACP

Vijay (Jay) Sandher helps people facing stress, anxiety, addiction, trauma and abuse, grief and depression. He writes simply and listens closely so people can find steps that feel possible. Jay speaks English and Punjabi and works with people in the United Kingdom and internationally.

Jay starts by asking what matters most to the person in front of him. He treats each session as a place to make sense of difficult moments. He believes clients are the experts on their own lives and aims to build on their existing strengths.

His background includes seven years of professional experience and registration with the BACP, the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy. That experience has included working with a wide range of emotional and behavioural struggles such as attachment difficulties, codependency, chronic illness and caregiver stress.

Jay uses approaches drawn from attachment-based work and client-centred conversation, alongside trauma-focused methods when past harm is a key issue. In practice that means helping people name patterns, try small changes, and process painful memories at a pace they can manage.

Sessions are practical and paced to the person's readiness. Jay aims to make talking about painful things feel less overwhelming. He supports people to build clearer boundaries, steady routines, and coping strategies that fit day-to-day life.

Approaches that translate well to online therapy

Attachment-based work focuses on how early relationships shape current patterns. It helps people notice how they connect, react and withdraw, and supports building more stable ways of relating. Client-centred therapy places the person's experience at the centre of each session. The counsellor offers empathic listening and reflection so people can find their own answers. Trauma-focused therapy provides structured ways to process memories and reduce their emotional hold, useful when past harm affects daily life.

Finding the right approach is part of the work. Jay will talk with each person about their needs, goals and preferences and choose methods together. That means the plan can shift as trust grows and new priorities emerge, keeping the process collaborative rather than fixed.

Online sessions offer practical flexibility. Video calls allow face-to-face conversation when visual connection helps, while phone work can be a good low-bandwidth option. Live chat or text messaging suit brief check-ins, written reflection, or when people prefer not to use audio. These formats make it easier to fit therapy around work, caregiving or mobility limits and to link with a registered or accredited professional from different locations.